The following email conversation, much of it done in a coffee shop in Amherst, Massachusetts across a table from each other, contains two
strands that quickly merge into one. We’ve reproduced the beginning of each strand. We each sent an initial email (before either of us had
read the other’s posting) and responded to them. Strand one starts with Lauren’s first posting and Kirk’s response to it, strand two with Kirk’s first posting and Lauren’s response. Following that, somewhat chaotically, we’ve included postings, which take up various themes. Readers will see where they merge, and where threads get picked up (or dropped).